Fun with the Fitels

A look into the life of (not-so) newlyweds Danny and Bethany Fitelson.

Sunday, October 28, 2007

3 suitcases in 10 days, again

My life is generally based on school calendars: that of Fuller and that of the Oakland high schools. So life is somewhat predictable, and every year October and April tend to be a perfect storm of work events, youth group events, and personal events. That's why I found myself traveling to three different cities, with three different suitcases, for three different reasons, all in the same ten days. (If this sounds familiar, check out my blog entry from October 2006 when I had YWAM, a business trip, and a personal trip in 10 days. Sounds a little too familiar.)

YWAM
Our youth group goes to the YWAM base in San Francisco every October to minister to the huge homeless population in San Francisco. This year we had a record amount of teens who wanted to come - 40 kids with only 5 adults. Based on the last time we were outnumbered (that nutty trip to Mexico) Danny was pretty stressed before the trip. But, the kids were fantastic! God really answers prayers (and we have great kids). I was especially thankful to get good sleep, with this group of girls who love each other and love to talk I've had trips when I only get 3 hours of sleep each night! The first night of YWAM I gave the girls a 15-minute warning before all talking had to cease, and less than 5 minutes later it was silent! I was so thrilled I blurted out into the silence how much I loved each and every one of them.


I was really impressed with the high schoolers and the way they cared for the homeless in San Francisco. They approached people boldly just to start a conversation and listen to them without any judgment. We had a large amount of freshmen and new students who had never done something like that, and they all made us really proud.

FULLER IN PASADENA
The Sunday that YWAM ended I came home early to do laundry and pack the next two suitcases. That night I flew to Pasadena for three days of meetings with the other Fuller extension staff at the Pasadena campus. I love these meetings since all the other Fuller staff from around the country are amazing people. I especially enjoy hanging out with my friend Airika from Seattle. Her and I have very similar jobs so we brainstorm a lot, and I love hearing about her wedding photography business she runs with her husband. If you're looking for an amazing wedding photographer in the Northwest, check out http://geraldpope.blogspot.com/

Our meetings in Pasadena are always busy - we get a full year's worth of meetings with all the campus departments in three days - but the face time is great! At times like that I really do love my job, and that's a great feeling. There's a lot of stress and way too much to do, but I'm proud to work for a school and ministry like Fuller.

DENVER, PART A
From L.A. I flew to Denver to attend the wedding of Cass Tallon, one of my Japan teammates and Pepperdine friends, and Alex Huffman, another Pepperdine campus ministry alum. Danny and I also took the chance to have three days of vacation together (the longest time away we've had in a long time!). We stayed at a Bed and Breakfast up in the mountains outside of Denver and really enjoyed being out of the city. We experienced local color, great homemade breakfasts made from eggs laid the same day (yum!) and ... the bird room. Our room at the B&B is called the Bird Suite, and it was full of stuffed birds, both taxidermy-stuffed and cotton-stuffed. It was cozy and very unique and we had a great time. I was sick with a bad cold the whole trip, so we did a lot of napping, relaxing, and just enjoying down time.




We did take an afternoon to explore Red Rocks Park which is famous for both its tall rust-colored rock formations, and for a gorgeous outdoor amphitheater. When we arrived we were looking forward to visiting the Colorado Welcome Center, which is supposed to be open until 4 every day. When we arrived it was closed, and we could not figure out why. Sure, it was a Thursday afternoon, but it didn't say it was closed on weekdays. Maybe it's only open on weekdays in the summer? But the sign says right there it's open from 9-4 every day! After visiting the other visitors center on site, we figured out why the welcome center was closed: it was 4:30! We had napped so long we had no idea what time it was! At that point we really felt like we were on vacation.







The wedding festivities were so much fun, mostly because I was reunited with Pepperdine campus ministry family, some of who I had not seen in years. Unfortunately, I was a dummy and left the camera in the car for the bachelorette party, rehearsal dinner, and wedding! If anyone reading this has pictures from the wedding, send them my way! The wedding was beautiful, mostly because the bride and groom have been best friends for 12 years and just recently found romance - they were glowing with excitement! It was also beautiful because it was outdoors with a beautiful mountain backdrop. An outdoor wedding in the Colorado mountains in October was certainly a gamble, but the temperature was in the low 70s and perfect. Two days before it had been 40 and frigid, and 12 hours after the wedding it dumped snow! I'm convinced God plays weatherman for occasions such as this.

It was really exciting for me to have Danny get to meet lots of my Pepperdine friends. I did a lot of introductions followed by a long list of how I know the person and who they are connected to. He was a great sport! Many of those friends I talk about constantly but Danny has never met, including Pepperdine campus ministers (and my college mentors) Scott Lambert and Linda Truschke. I loved catching up with them and they loved meeting Danny. Of course, it was special to see my Japan team: Cass, Leah and Tim (we missed you Timbo!). They are the greatest friends I could ask for and I still can't believe all three of us girls are married! If we had only known what would come when we had late-night talks about the boys in our lives and our hopes for the futures. Cass would always quote Ephesians 3:20 "Now unto him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine" and she was right! None of us would have imagined having the husbands we do now, and in fact Cass was the only one who knew her husband at the time and she never thought they would date! When we let God plan our lives for us he has a better plan in mind than we could imagine.

DENVER, PART B
I split the Denver trip into two parts because it feels a bit surreal as if it were two trips. Danny and I woke up Sunday morning to find it had snowed overnight and our rental car was buried. By buried I mean there were 2-3 inches on it, but to a pair of Californians it looked buried! While he checked out and got our breakfast to go, I scraped off the car and was starting to pride myself on my Canadian blood that knew how to properly scrape snow off a car. I was wrong - my Canadian blood has fully retreated under a California girl driver, and on the way to the airport I ran the car off the road. In my defense, it wasn't snowing when we left, but it all of a sudden came down hard. Where I made a mistake was deciding to stop and fill up the tank at that point. As soon as I nudged the wheel to change lanes, the tires let go of the road. Danny and I both felt it immediately, but at first I thought they would find traction again. As we slid more Danny said "Are you okay?" and I responded "I'm not sure." Then we knew we were in trouble, we were both trying to turn the wheel, and I tried to hit the brakes but we couldn't do anything except sit and wait to see where we landed. Eventually we impaled the car on a guardrail. Looking back, it could have been so much worse, and I'm really thankful. The only injury between the two of us is a rug burn on my wrist from the airbag.



I'm not sure if it's because the engine was so damaged or because the air bags deployed, but the inside of the car immediately stunk like smoke. We didn't think it was safe to stay in the car, so we got out - but keep in mind it was still pouring down snow. And then the thunder and lightning started. We made the phone calls to 911 and the rental car company, but it was snowing so hard that there were 5 other accidents on the same stretch of freeway and since we weren't hurt it was going to be a while before anyone showed up.



Just as we were soaked and starting to shiver, a pair of angels showed up. God is just too good to us sometimes. This sweet couple pulled over (I am still baffled as to how anyone else drove in that weather without sliding off the road) and offered to let us sit in their car until help came. I was hesitant to inconvenience anyone, but we really needed to get warm and dry. We sat in their car (on leather seats, I might add) for the next hour and in between phone calls to insurance, the rental car company, the police, etc. we got to know our rescuers. Their names were Rich and Charlotte, and Rich turned out to be a Pepperdine alum! They were on their way to church, which did not surprise me at all. As we apologized repeatedly for ruining their morning, they said it was more important to be Jesus to someone than to sit in a pew. They were such an amazing couple. When we found out it was going to take the tow truck a long time to arrive, Rich loaded our luggage in his car and they drove us all the way to the airport. I am still amazed by this couple and their generosity and kindness when we were desperate!

So if we recap, I have wrecked a car twice in the last three months, both immediately after attending the out of state wedding of one of my Japan teammates. Good thing I'm not superstitious or I would not be attending Tim's wedding when that happens! Haha. All in all, the Denver accident was traumatic but could have been so much worse! I did have a hard time driving to work the day after the accident - I was pretty paralyzed with fear, which is unusual for me behind the wheel. Old people were zooming around me and shooting me dirty looks because I was crawling along the road. I'm doing better now and trying to focus on the blessings instead of the helpless feeling of sliding off the road.

Mostly, I'm just glad to be home after so many trips! Thanks for reading my novel (if anyone is still with me) and I hope it won't be so long before I update again.

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4 Comments:

Blogger Robert and Kelli said...

Bethany! How wild! I am so glad you are safe! Thanks for the update. Have a wonderful week!

5:55 AM  
Blogger Grace said...

Beffany, I'm so sorry things have been stressful lately, but it sounds like you've had a lot of blessings, too. D, I love you, man! And you are totally all man. You would fit right in here in Texas with all your manly hunting and camping skillz. Whaddup!!

9:31 AM  
Blogger Christy said...

You both must have been so scared! And I am so relieved you are safe! Weather sucks, let's not have any more of it. I shall speak to God about it.

1:25 AM  
Blogger Gerald & Airika said...

Oh my gosh! That is crazy! Thanks for the blog shout-out. I enjoy hanging out with you too. :) Airika

3:23 PM  

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